Becoming Your Own #1 Fan: 3 Simple Steps

Weโ€™re all guilty of being our own worst critic sometimes, but when is it time to say enoughโ€™s enough?ย Nowadays, itโ€™s common for people to encounter โ€œtrollsโ€ (I donโ€™t mean an ugly creature that lives under a bridge, but one that hides behind a keyboard), which can knock peopleโ€™s confidence on and offline. Itโ€™s normal to worry about what people think of you, but once you change the way you think about yourself, you will stop seeking the approval of others.ย  Itโ€™s time to become your own biggest fan with these 3 simple steps, because the only person holding you back, is you.ย 

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Step One: Build A Fortress Of Self-Worthย 

Do you ever get a voice in your head that tells you youโ€™re not good enough? Well, itโ€™s time to stop listening. Itโ€™s so important to build self-worth, it enables you to take on lifeโ€™s challenges and be proud of who you are.ย 

So, what is it? Self-worth is a direct measure of how you see yourself and it doesnโ€™t change because of external factors or when circumstances change. It means you have complete faith in yourself, your ability and you feel worthy of all things good. You donโ€™t need someone to determine whether you deserve happiness, success or health, because you already know you do.ย 

Now youโ€™re probably thinking, how the heck do I get to that place? Well, Iโ€™ll tell you how. Itโ€™s not something that happens overnight, itโ€™s a long-term process that you need to work on consistently over time. Your journey to become your own fan is like building a house, bear with me here. Once you start adding bricks, your house begins to take shape, grow and become stronger, until itโ€™s almost unbreakable. Even in the worst conditions, your house will remain intact, because you put in place a solid foundation that you consistently built over time.ย 

Once youโ€™ve built a high level of self-worth, you will hold the power to transform your life for the better. You wonโ€™t be phased by external circumstances, instead, youโ€™ll begin to accept yourself fully and love yourself unconditionally.ย 

Nothing or no one will be able to stop you from reaching your full potential. 

Step Two: Make Failure Your Best Friendย 

You can’t become your own fan when all you think about is failure. Failure might sound like the scariest word in the world to many people. Undoubtedly, one of the most difficult feelings we have to try and overcome in life is the fear of failure. But, it shouldnโ€™t be your enemy, it should be your best friend. I donโ€™t expect you to hold hands and roast marshmallows together, but try to see the good in it.ย 

Weโ€™ve all experienced failure at some point in our life, maybe you didnโ€™t get the job you wanted, failed your driving test or didnโ€™t pass an exam. The scariest thing about it, is being worried about what people will think of you when you fail. But, what you donโ€™t realise is, failure is the best teacher youโ€™ll ever have.ย 

When we try something new, weโ€™re stepping out of our comfort zones and opening ourselves up to the potential of failure. But, weโ€™re also giving ourselves the opportunity to succeed! If you donโ€™t take these risks because youโ€™re scared of failure, youโ€™re preventing yourself from doing what you want in life. Itโ€™s so important to take a chance on yourself and learn to accept failure so you can live a better life. 

If you do fail, it might temporarily shake your confidence and make you question yourself, but itโ€™s an opportunity in disguise. Each failure is a mistake to be learnt from, although they seem like tough lessons, theyโ€™re also very valuable ones. 

Ask yourself this, will you live a better life if you play it safe, or if you take chances? 

Step Three: Stop Comparing Yourself To Othersย 

Itโ€™s safe to say that everywhere you look nowadays, thereโ€™s always someone to compare yourself to. Human beings have probably been doing this since the beginning of time, I can imagine cavemen comparing the size of their clubs and envying people who had bigger ones. I could be way off with that one…

Letโ€™s be honest, the struggle is real for most of us when it comes to comparing ourselves to others. Thereโ€™s an abundance of categories to choose from, from being envious of someone’s job, success, appearance or money and the list just keeps going. Now that social media has infiltrated the majority of our lives, itโ€™s easier than ever to find people to compare yourself to, people you would never have known existed if you werenโ€™t scrolling through Instagram. However, itโ€™s not your timeline that needs to change, itโ€™s your mindset. 

Iโ€™m not saying youโ€™ll never again wish you were as rich as Jeff Bezos, but you can manage this constant habit of comparison. It all begins with evaluating the way you see yourself and instead of looking at someone elseโ€™s success, focusing on your own. Become aware of your past achievements and use them as motivation to pursue more. Remember, a lot of what we see is fabricated to resemble the โ€œperfect lifeโ€ and we usually see whatโ€™s on the surface of people, not whatโ€™s hiding underneath. Always remind yourself that youโ€™re good enough and you have everything you need to achieve greatness in your little part of the world. 

There are 86,400 seconds in a day, donโ€™t waste another one comparing yourself to others.ย 

Itโ€™s time to take control of your life and stop holding yourself back. With a new year ahead, itโ€™s the perfect opportunity to wipe the slate of self-doubt, hop on the journey to success and start loving yourself for who you are. Who needs fans when you can become your own fan.

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